Start where you are…so hard to do, isn’t it? I received these words from a dear cousin of mine, who didn’t realize what words of wisdom that she was giving me at the time.
You see, like her, I often won’t do things in my life unless I can do them completely perfect…which often leads to them not getting done at all…because who the heck has time for perfection anyway? Case in point, this blog. I started up my blog way back in late September of ‘08 and here it is late February and I am just now mustering the courage to actually maintain it now. And to warn you…it most definitely won’t be perfect.
For anyone that knows me, I think that they would say that I am a fairly confident person…one that has navigated through life pretty successfully. I have dabbled in alot of things in my life. I have a lot of fancy degrees. I am a good mom (most days) to two beautiful little darlin’s. I have the typical American dream. But what may seem to some that I have it all together, is sometimes just an illusion. Don’t we all do this? Trick everyone into thinking we know what we are doing at all times? Radiating confidence when inside, a little voice of self doubt is begging to be heard.
I am fairly new to this photography gig. Only have two years under my belt. I am learning new things everyday which in some ways, thrills me. In other ways, it terrifies me. I kind of fell into this business. I was teaching college-level nursing at the time and was absolutely miserable. Not that I didn’t like my students or the people that I worked with, but I just felt in every cell of my body that I was not spending my life doing what God created me to be doing. I was essentially living a lie. I was a really good nurse and at the top of my game skill-wise. I could handle difficult situations. Being really good at something really feeds an ego, but not so much the soul.
So I started taking pictures for my friends…freebie deals for Christmas cards in late 2007. Word of mouth was my best friend and my little business exploded out of the starting gate. All of a sudden, I was launched into an unknown world that was completely foreign to me. It was exhilerating and completely scary at the same time. And it continues to be that same ball of wax of ying and yang. I went from a field that is very skill oriented and objective to one that is highly creative and subjective. The learning curve that lie ahead of me was oppressive to say the least. But it strangely felt good to be at the bottom again. To be learning again…to be fending off staleness that had found its’ way into my bored heart.
But with any challenge in life, comes fear and self-doubt. That little voice that resonates inside your head….are you really good enough? Do you have what it takes? Can you handle the pressure? Do you want to start over again in a new career…knowing that you don’t have a choice because the other alternative is a dying soul. Literally. I was a really good nurse, but I was bored silly. Anyone ever been like that? A prison within your own skin?
Fast-forward two years…to a business that continues to be a one-man operation, but is growing at a rate that is comfortable for me for the place that I am at right now. Self doubt continues to be my worst critic…always comparing myself to others…should I be like them? Should I take on wedding work after many inquires? Should I invest more in my business? Take on more shoots? Hire a staff of sorts that could really take this business to the next level?
What is the answer to all of these questions? I haven’t a clue. But I am figuring out that it is okay not to know. It is okay not to be big. It is okay to be self-taught. It is okay to be learning everything from business 101 to transitioning to my new Mac. It is okay to be taking baby steps when I am used to the pace of running.
It is okay just to be where I am at. Hard lesson to learn…